Yesterday my wife’s car was hit as it was parked next to my house. It just sat there innocently waiting for me to take it for a ride when a young girl sideswiped it and shoved it 5′ onto the sidewalk.
Sure enough the car is totalled. Broken rear axle and the front transaxle is also damaged.
Two of my work computers freak out and I spent 6 hrs trying to fix them. My office VOIP phone system stopped working – but no worry it will forward to my cell phone.
And today I showed a sign of weakness. I allowed myself to think “Well, it can’t get any worse then this.” No sooner that the words left my mouth and…
As soon as I said that my cell phone would not work. I leave for a client meeting in a state of disempowerment. What a way to start day two of breakdowns!! On my way, about 2 miles from my destination, my car’s air suspension system freaks out! Fu€k!!
“EAS Failure – Warning Do Not Drive Over 35MPH!!” The dashboard kept warning me.
I was in Ft. Lauderdale (more then 40 miles from home) and I find myself like a ‘vato’ driving my ‘low rider machine’ and hip-hopping all the way home. I was determined not to let this setback stop me! No way!!
Anyway two hours later, I made it there. I started the trip back pissed and cursing everything and everyone. But I arrived with a smile on my face and a new found peace. As I’m driving and the car hops at every bump, I find myself thinking of a skit on the “Whose Line is it Anyway Show.”
Have you seen this show? It stars four comedians who are put into odd situations and they must improvise a skit on the spur of the moment. Not only do they improvise, but they make me laugh at whatever situation they are in. It’s really funny to see Colin Mochrie, Drew Carey, Ryan Stiles and Wayne Brady pick up on something unexpected and just play with it.
So I see myself in this disempowered state and I see Colin making believe that he is riding in a car, sitting really low to the ground and his arm resting on the imaginary window ledge. He is going down the road without a care in the world while in the green screen behind him chaos ensues. The dichotomy and contrast is just funny. I can imagine Colin’s silly smile when he finally realizes what is happening behind him.
What I saw available for me:
Well I say the question “Whose life is it anyway?” Just because circumstances are NOT what I was expecting in life, it does not mean that it’s time to freak out and let the world fall apart! In fact, it’s an opportunity to deal with the bad things in a way that empowers me.
Sure I have every right to be pissed, angry and overwhelmed – but why?? Yes, bad things happen, but I have the choice of who I am going to be in the face of chaos. Do I let that piss me off and leave me disempowered – OR – to I choose to be empowered no matter the circumstance.
I choose to empower myself and overcome the circumstances! This leaves a space available for me to take action about it anyway.